I do think it’s pretty funny that fanfic premises based on illegitimate kids as an excuse for crossovers over the years have gone from “Mom character CHEATED on Dad character 𥔠to “once upon a time, mommy and daddy had a threesome and now we have YOU!” lmaoooo. People don’t want marital discord they just want a third parent
This post is “three parents living happily in one house” erasure smh
Only two parents? In *this* economy?
I love this post. I LOVE this post. When I was in Kindergarten, my teacher wanted to show my family a drawing we were supposed to do if our parents or family members (something like that). At that time, I was living in the house with my mother, my aunt, my grandparents, and my dad would visit sometimes on the weekend. As a baby, my mom was involved with a gay man who even after he came out stayed close with the family (thereâs tons of pictures of him holding me as a baby). Anyway, they showed the picture I drew, where I told my teacher I had FIVE PARENTS.
I was an only child, but I was never lonely. My aunt was like the cool big sister, my grandpa pushed me on the swing and taught me about yardwork and exposed me to classic musicals, my grandma is the reason I can cook and bake.
It doesnât matter how they get there: more people in your childâs life is a good thing.
Fast forward to when I am 15. My grandparents adopt me. My aunt legally becomes my sister, her children legally become my niece and nephew, my grandfather, almost near retirement, gets to joke around with his office that he has a teenager at home and sheâs accomplishing xyz insert whatever activity they were keeping me busy with. My grandparents wouldnât have it any other way.
You know who âgave me awayâ at my wedding? Six different people all in unison agreeing to help me and my husband on our journey.
I had TWO father/daughter dances that night. No one batted an eye.
More people doesnât make your kidâs life complicated. It makes it better, I promise. It takes a village. Whether that village comes about organically, legally, through marriage, or polyamory.
I didn’t initially tap this post as good poly rep (you can tell it was my second thought), but I am always of the opinion that you can have as many parents in your life as are there are people willing to raise you. There is no such thing as ‘replacing a rightful role’; there are only people who love you and are willing to put the time in to be there for you, and your willingness to receive them. Likewise, I imagine, come partners and children.
Thank you for adding your experience.
Extremely validated that someone else also assumed there was just a talking computer monitor in their house and they just lived like that
