uh actually dont? yell at hets for using words like datemate and partner?
because there is always a chance that one of them is a closeted trans person and they’re trying to not misgender them while also not outing them
and normalizing gender-neutral language makes doing that safer anyway
normalizing gender-neutral language for romantic or sexual partners also lessens the strain on closeted LGBPA people in same gender relationships
normalizing gender-neutral language for spouses/partners/datemates/SOs/etc even for cishets is helpful to everyone, ESPECIALLY queer people