Wow that’s some bullshit?
How to be a shitty parent
how is this shitty parenting if i tell you to be home at a certain time you better be there. Shit my mom would have been out looking for me.
Right? How is this shitty at all?? If i tell you to be home at a certain time you better be there or else you aren’t allowed in the home. I care about my kids safety so much I’ll endanger them when they dont listen to me.
i do not have the energy to explain why this is a shitty thing to do but yeah it’s shit
I do! If you’re gonna be a vindictive little shit to your kids, you shouldn’t be having them. Having abusive parents like the ones up here fucked up my perception of love and affection.
I got locked out of the house all the time just like this poor kid. Do you know how fucking cold it gets at night? NO because you’re cushy and comfortable behind those decorated glass doors! I slept in 30
°F weather. I was on the swim team so I had to wake up and run with the team at 5 am then go to class. I’d wake up with frozen hair and bugs crawling on me. I’d start crying and it would rain fucking cold water. I had no friends in the neighborhood to go to. I’m still somewhat scared of the dark.
There’s wild animals and predatory strangers and shit out there. You’re gonna put your fucking CHILD in that situation and FAIL to be their guardian at one of the most important times of day just because they made it home late? Kids make fucking mistakes, and if you aren’t prepared for that, you shouldn’t even have pets. You’re not a caretaker, you’re a lazy abusive perfectionist snot. I’d kick your ass if you were my neighbor and I saw you pulling this shit! No joke!
My roommate talks all the time about how if her kids mess around she’d smack them around, but she and a LOT of other people do not understand that punishments like those are abuse. They fuck your kid up for life.
If you leave a kid out in the cold they’re more likely to get into more trouble/danger to keep warm anyway. Who’s gonna take your kid into their home? Do you even give a shit what happens to them? No because you wanted to play god and get back at someone who is still developing. Be a fucking adult.
Your kid is not a robot. It’s so shitty these parents have done this kind of stuff before and have NOT given the kid a blanket.
Neglect is the chronic inattention or omission on the part of the care giver to provide for the basic emotional and/or physical needs of the child, including food, clothing, nutrition, adequate supervision, health, hygiene, safety, medical and psychological care and education. Emotionally neglected children do not receive the necessary psychological nurturance to foster their own growth and development. The consequences of neglect can be very serious, particularly for young children. The child who does not receive adequate emotional, cognitive and physical stimulation, physical care and nutrition may experience lags in development. These lags in development may be irreversible.
SOME FORMS OF ABUSE & NEGLECT:
*Rejection, ignorance and isolation
*A lack of shelter
*Emotional neglect or lack of supervision
*Deliberate locking children out of the house
So if you think pulling this childish bullshit is ok, I will break into your house and steal whatever funds it takes to care for your child. I’ll fight you in the morning because you’re a garbage human being.
Stop teaching your damn kid they’re worthless. YOU made them.
Stop being your child’s enemy, start being their actual fucking caretaker.
Just so y’all know… in the state of Texas, this is grounds for me to call CPS on your ass.
And I will, too.
Same in Illinois and I fucking will.
TBH all the people coming out in support of locking kids outside for missing curfew need to just not have kids
Reminder that one of the victims of Ted Bundy (the serial killer) was locked out of her house because of missing curfew, and he offered his “help.”
This can get your child KILLED.
Also, not everyone chooses to get home late.
There may be traffic, or an accident of some kind, or they may simply have a shit sense of time or direction.
I hope that these parents got called out and arrested for child abuse.
Talking about locking your kids out of the house if they aren’t back by curfew shows me that you’re not interested in your children’s safety so much as you’re interested in their obedience–and that’s shitty parenting, no matter how you slice it.
I mean, let’s take a look at the reason for curfews: they’re basically a way of saying, “alright, if you’re not home by this time, I’m going to start worrying.” They aren’t a simple assertion of authority, e.g., “I am the mom, you are the child, you do not get to make your own decisions, I am the ruler, you are my subject.” They exist so that you can know if your child is safe. If your kid is back by the agreed-upon time (for the sake of argument, we’ll say 11 p.m.) or has at least called you to let you know that they’re safe, there’s no worrying about their overall safety. Conversely, if you haven’t heard from your kid by the agreed-upon time and if they aren’t home, then hey: where the fuck are they?
So with that in mind, it’s counterintuitive to make the punishment for missing curfew locking your kid out of the house. That’s basically saying, “I had to worry about your safety, so now I’m going to ensure that you aren’t safe.” It’s an abusive punishment for a lack of obedience and doesn’t teach anyone anything.
That’s not to say that breaking curfew (assuming there aren’t mitigating circumstances) shouldn’t result in consequences, but I’ve long believed that if you’re going to raise a human being to be a good and responsible adult, the consequences should teach something. Locking your kid out of the house only teaches them (a) that you’re a cruel dictator who’d rather see them hurt or killed than see your rules broken; and (b) that you are not someone safe or trustworthy. And, frankly, if you’re okay with either of those things, you should not ever have had children.